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枫下家园 / 望子成龙 / 请教各位家长,你怎么处理?
-fhws(凤凰);
2006-11-4
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You're wrong.
-pigking(铁头猪王);
2006-11-5
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谢谢你的意见,我就是觉得任由人家热脸贴个冷PG好象很过意不去,孩子学校几乎很少中国人,我不想让人家家长觉得中国妈妈不懂礼数,可我背着女儿送好象也不合适。唉。
-fhws(凤凰);
2006-11-5
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热脸贴个冷PG... That's life. Get used to it.
-pigking(铁头猪王);
2006-11-5
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一般推断,你孩子应该还受到她其他那些朋友的压力。礼貌本身不是目的,礼貌是为生活服务的。你愿意为了和某个同事讲"礼貌"而被其他同事排斥吗?哪里都有站队的问题,小孩也不例外。人以类聚,物以群分。这是动物的天性。
-pigking(铁头猪王);
2006-11-5
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你说的这个来自朋友的压力我倒没想到过,谢谢提醒。我还担心我老要求她being nice,有时候是否太压抑她自己主观意见,不喜欢也不当面说出来。不够tough在西人环境里将来也很难生存,矛盾啊。
-fhws(凤凰);
2006-11-5
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加拿大人也是人,你的想法是对的,孩子有不会的地方当然要教会她(例如为人处事)
-nolater(nolater);
2006-11-5
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其实如果你女儿不喜欢,在RSVP日期之前不打电话确认,就代表你不会出席,啥问题也没有。如果你跟人家说会出席,人家就按人头准备了,你没有特殊原因是不应该不去的,不去礼物也该送到。
-x888(计划:什么都当美声唱);
2006-11-5
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不谈人情世故,“u just want me pretend i like her“ -- 孩子有她自己的情绪和决定,父母需要尊重,哪怕不认同。否则,她慢慢就容易怀疑,否定自己,以后对父母也容易对立。
-mssg(Wild_Killer);
2006-11-5
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Since she really likes your daughter, why not coach your daughter to influence her in a positive way? Chance to nuture leadership...
-hilo(still mellow);
2006-11-5
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Thanks for ur suggestion, it is helpful.
-fhws(凤凰);
2006-11-5
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I would say to respect your daughter's opinion. She is a little person with her own ideas, especailly in regards to friendship. You should not impose value upon her.She will learn from the way you deal with your friends. For a birthday party, it should be a fun and interest place for friends to celebrate one's birthday. If it means that much pain for your daughter, she certainly should not go. It has nothing to do with politeness. You should confirm with her before you make the RSVP. I have seen so many people not coming to a certain party even if they made a RSVP. No big deal. Or, how do you expect your daughter respect your opinion later on?
-littlepony2002(pony);
2006-11-6
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