that is ridiculous. she is a healthy woman. she needs healthy sex just like any man does. how come this become her bad history? what do you expect from her? go without sex for
-the_dumb_one(dumb_and_dumber);
2007-5-21{223}(#3689997@0)
10 yrs or 20 yrs and bragging about her chastity and virtue with wrinkles all over her face?
she did nothing wrong to have sex with others. but if she hide it and does not tell the truth when asked -- that would be wrong.
your comments are not quite valid:
-the_dumb_one(dumb_and_dumber);
2007-5-21{1042}(#3690108@0)
本文发表在 rolia.net 枫下论坛1. she did notthing wrong to seduce the married guys. the problem was with the guys not with her. she could not hurt anyone if the guys refused her. I don't believe you can judge a relationship with "right or wrong" -- it is a personal choice. you choose it and you live with it. the married guys went with her. and, marriage is something built beween two adults. it can be built. it can also be destroyed. nothing is eternal. one has the right to pursue anyone, married or not married -- whether he/she can be successful is another story.
2. there is nothing wrong to go with the locals. in modern society we should at least try to be race-blind. as long as it was a faire game then good for both parties.
3. as for taking nude pictures that is a personal taste. we should not pass moral judgement on it. do you criticize people because they prefer to have the lights on when having sex? in today's world of adults toy, group therapy, digitalized home video, and legalized pornography, what is the big deal about nude picture?更多精彩文章及讨论,请光临枫下论坛 rolia.net
it is funny. how do you know my morality is low? who set up the "standard" for morality? you? don't try to hide your loser mentality beneath the camouflage of morality.
-the_dumb_one(dumb_and_dumber);
2007-5-21{218}(#3690446@0)
you don't owe any body. and your spouse is never your private property, whether legally or morally. if you are not the best for him/her you better start making effort to be one, or just wait for the worst to happen.
Neither you nor me only, people set up the standard. If you don't know it, just ask others. Ok? Hope you will never be a loser. :)
-redcarrot(萝卜);
2007-5-21(#3690470@0)
if I become a loser I'll admit it and live with it. life is a fair game. we get what we paid for.
one should live his/her own life the way he/she wants to live -- why bother to ask others'
-the_dumb_one(dumb_and_dumber);
2007-5-21{104}(#3690519@0)
for your own moral standard? if you don't have the guts to compete you don't deserve the best in life.
I already know your points. No need to repeat again and again. Just re-consider the morality and responsibility two words I gave. Ok, that's all, friend. :)
-redcarrot(萝卜);
2007-5-21(#3690540@0)
Why do you judge people like that???
-lealealea(leah);
2007-5-22(#3691205@0)
You don't agree? How do you think? :)
-redcarrot(萝卜);
2007-5-22(#3692789@0)
good point. live with whateve you choose.
-the_dumb_one(dumb_and_dumber);
2007-5-21(#3690351@0)
Life is short.. you dont wanna end up your life with a boring wife, right? If she can bring you energy and happiness, why cares so much her past?
-backtohome(home);
2007-5-21(#3690192@0)
oh, I didnot read the whole post, if in that case, LZ should consider..
-backtohome(home);
2007-5-21(#3690205@0)
you don't own your husband. what/who gives you the right to stop others from pursuing him?
if you are really good enough no one can seduce him. if you are not that good or not good
-the_dumb_one(dumb_and_dumber);
2007-5-21{43}(#3690362@0)
if the jungle principle can be perfectly applied in almost every aspect of human society -- corporate world, international relationship, etc, why cannot it be applied to
-the_dumb_one(dumb_and_dumber);
2007-5-21{169}(#3690409@0)
male/female relationship or marriage? we have to earn pretty much everything in our life, what makes us believe we don't have to earn love/marriage/decent relationship?
You can earn it but you have to take your responsibilities. Here comes the morality. It's different than the market, IT IS NOT completely FREE!
-redcarrot(萝卜);
2007-5-21(#3690479@0)
I don't understand. what is the difference here? what makes it not completely free? just because you are there first so others have to give up their right to compete?
-the_dumb_one(dumb_and_dumber);
2007-5-21(#3690503@0)
若是这样,LZ完全可以大大方方地接受她。婚姻本身就是一种冒险,或赌博,而在这个游戏过程中,男人处于有利的位置。因此,作为男人,应该有点胆量和气魄,谁怕谁吗?你的女友有一个13岁的小孩,说明她年龄也不小了,这个岁数的女人比男人更想要一个家。她之所以选择你,就是希望过稳定的家庭生活。
敢给别人发裸照,说明你的女友风韵犹存(tons of 明星上裸照哪,若有心里障碍,就把她当作其中之一好了),硕士在读,说明她是一个很有品味的人。我倒觉得LZ你自己是身在福中不知福。好好把握吧,过了这一村,没了这个店。
她发裸照是给特定的人发(who she wanted to have sex with), 这只是个人喜好的问题。你认为她没品味,那也只是你个人的看法,不能代表社会的道德水准和审美水准。至于色诱有妇之夫,那也不是她的错。她是一个健康的女人,她需要正常的性生活,她可以向任何人表达她的爱意(no matter he is married or not)。她是一个弱女子,她没钱,她只能且有权选择whatever she possessed. 如果有妇之夫选择和她上床,那也只能说明他自己的婚姻已经存在问题。他对婚姻的不忠,原因不在于她,而在于他自己。如果一定要找一个人加以谴责的话,那也应该是他,而不是她。女儿十三仍硕士在读说明没有生存能力?我看也不尽然。这也是一个选择问题。In Canada, 四五十岁重返学校的大有人在,完全没有必要这样贬低人家。
She was single, she was just trying to have some fun as the men did with her. It was nothing wrong or right. Tat is just life. Have as much fun as possible if that does not hurt anybody
-backyard0000(tidyyard);
2007-5-22(#3691064@0)
she did hurt other's marriage, the only conclusion got is she doesn't care about other's marriages,
-newdonkey(me);
2007-5-22(#3691113@0)
hurt ot not, if it is discreet and both just did that for fun, it helps.
-backyard0000(tidyyard);
2007-5-22(#3691143@0)