I live in a city with no car. Big snow. Has to walk to do grocery shopping. But guess what, I gave my parents 12500US and 9000 CDN in 2005 + 5000US on a ring for my gf.
-jeffrey815(Smartiecat);
2006-1-27{162}(#2749115@0)
My bank account is still a big fat zero though I'm making good money. So what? It's ONLY money!
btw, they never asked me to give them money. But I wanted to.
Even if I get married, every year I will still budget an equal amount for both of our parents. Do I care I have to pay off my mortgage in 10 years intead of 13 years? NO!
-jeffrey815(Smartiecat);
2006-1-27{216}(#2749136@0)
Do I care whether our parents can still make an extra trip to Europe while they still CAN MOVE? YES!
Come on. They are alo your FAMILY. There are no YOU without them.
It's something that should be coming from your heart. Look at LZ. Feeling upset for giving their parents for only 100 dollars.
-jeffrey815(Smartiecat);
2006-1-27{105}(#2749157@0)
Come on. I know you are not WELL OFF. But every year give 500 will make you WORSE OFF? I DON'T THINK SO!
My point is they should NOT be upset by giving their parents $100. If I'm in their shoes, I will still give our parents 500 dollars each side per year. It is something that you show them that you still care about them.
-jeffrey815(Smartiecat);
2006-1-27(#2749188@0)
As I said before, no matter what, you shouldn't be upset about $100 you gave to your parents. That's just not right.
-jeffrey815(Smartiecat);
2006-1-27(#2749233@0)
如果他们省吃简用,都还不剩500,拿什么给呀?You should wear their hats as well!
-x888(我可不敢刷网了);
2006-1-27(#2749208@0)
That's only 40 a month. If they get RA/TA, they should be able to get at least 35~40k for both. I don't think they can't even take out 40 a month (or 100 for parents on both sides).
-jeffrey815(Smartiecat);
2006-1-27(#2749222@0)
That's what family is about. Parent's shouldn't ask for money. Children should give money without them asking. It's not like you have to give thousands in this case. Come on. It's the new year.
-jeffrey815(Smartiecat);
2006-1-27{50}(#2749254@0)
She said 我和老公都是学生,去年刚生了宝宝,经济不算太好. She didn't say she's broke. If she's broke, fine. But she's not... 经济不算太好 in my view, means I don't have any $ left but still a little bit.
-jeffrey815(Smartiecat);
2006-1-27{37}(#2749269@0)
Read my post. Every year I will budget an equal amount for our parents. After I get married, I am not going to give every single cent to our parents.
-jeffrey815(Smartiecat);
2006-1-27{249}(#2749172@0)
However, we would budget min(10000, 20% of the household after tax income) for our parents. Each side get 10%. Of course I might not be able to payoff my mortgage sooner. Of course I might not have $ to buy a lexus but has to drive a civic. So what?
That's why you, as a son, need to teach them how to enjoy life! My mom every time she visit my grandma, she would bring her to travel. Though my grandma always refused to go, afterward my grandma always feel happy.
-jeffrey815(Smartiecat);
2006-1-27{295}(#2749204@0)
Lower my living standard is ALWAYS temporary. I believe you should agree as well.
And as I said before, I WILL NOT give every single cent to our parents after I get married. But I will still budget $ for our parents each year. They have to be in the equation since they are still your FAMILY.
As I said before, my parents NEVER ask me for $. In fact, my mom worked two jobs (OVER 60HR/Week) right now trying to payoff their mortgage sooner because she felt that she owed me since I gave her all the $.
-jeffrey815(Smartiecat);
2006-1-27{160}(#2749194@0)
That's what family is about. You care about each other. Show love to each other...
And I wouldn't accept a single cent from my gf's parents or my parents.
I won't leave any $ to my kids. Why? I have been self-supporting since I entered university. That was when I were 18. I expect the same from my kid.
-jeffrey815(Smartiecat);
2006-1-27(#2749199@0)
At my current career, I don't expect I need money from them when I retire. Also in my mind, I am self-sufficient. I don't like to accept money from any of my relatives.
-jeffrey815(Smartiecat);
2006-1-27(#2749242@0)
So, how do you know your parents are happy with your money?
-lookahead1234(来来);
2006-1-27(#2749312@0)
i think if jeffery receives some money from his children,he will feel happy as well,even though he hasnt expected that.
-goodbaby(小宝);
2006-1-27(#2749379@0)
As I said, my parents felt bad that I gave them all the $. And if I marry, I will protect my wife from my parents. It's our business. Not my parents' business.
-jeffrey815(Smartiecat);
2006-1-27(#2749274@0)
Too bad for my mom. I've done what I think it's right as a son. If she wants more, I have to say sorry, it's my life.
-jeffrey815(Smartiecat);
2006-1-27(#2749283@0)
As I said again, we budget equal amount for both side of the parents. If that's the case, I will reduce to a reasonable agreeable amout. Luckily both of us agree that we should give $ to our parents.
-jeffrey815(Smartiecat);
2006-1-27(#2749368@0)
Exactly. I'm just so surprise that people care about $ so MUCH... If 500 dollars can make LZ's parent very happy, then give them 500 dollars. geez...
-jeffrey815(Smartiecat);
2006-1-27(#2749376@0)
LZ's parents... Are you blind?
-pigking(铁头猪王);
2006-1-27(#2749383@0)
LZ means the post UP UP UP. fishersy...
-jeffrey815(Smartiecat);
2006-1-27(#2749391@0)