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C1.4 identify and explain factors that can affect an individual’s decisions about sexual activity (e.g., previous thinking about reasons to wait, including making a choice to delay sexual activity and establishing personal limits; perceived personal readiness; peer pressure; desire; curiosity; self-concept; awareness and acceptance of gender identity and sexual orientation; physical or cognitive disabilities and possible associated assumptions; legal concerns; awareness of health risks, including risk of STIs and blood-borne infections; concerns about risk of pregnancy; use of alcohol or drugs; personal or family values; religious beliefs; cultural teachings; access to information; media messages), and identify sources of support regarding sexual health (e.g., a health professional [doctor, nurse, public health practitioner], a community elder, a teacher, a religious leader, a parent or other trusted adult, a reputable website) [PS]
那些对一个人决定性生活起作用的因素(以前对等待的考虑,包括做推迟的选择和个人承受极限的建立,对个人准备与否的感悟,同伴压力,愿望;好奇心;自我认知;对性别认同的意识和接纳,性取向;生理和认知上的不足,可能的假定;法律上的顾虑;健康风险的意识,包括STI和血液传染的风险;怀孕风险的顾虑;使用酒精和药物;个人和家庭的价值感;信仰;具有某种文化背景的教学法;对信息的使用;媒体信息),确认关于性健康的支持来源(一个专业人员[医生,护士,公共护士],社区长者,老师,宗教领袖,家长或信任的成年人,声誉好大网站)[个人技能]
Teacher prompt: “How would thinking about your personal limits and making a personal plan influence decisions you may choose to make about sexual activity?”
"在性生活的决定中,怎样考虑你个人的承受极限,个人计划的影响。"
Student: “Thinking in advance about what I value and what my personal limits are would help me to respond and make decisions that I felt comfortable with in different situations. I would be able to approach a situation with more confidence and stick to what I had planned. I would be less likely to be caught off guard and have to react without having thought through the options and possible consequences.”
“提前考虑到我的价值,我的承受力,可以让我在不同情况下感到舒适与否并做出回音和决定。我愿意进入那种令我产生更多信心的或者是预知的场合。我不喜欢参与那种没有保护的,突发性的,后果难以预料的事物。”
Teacher prompt: “Why is it important to get information from a credible source before making a decision about being sexually active? Why is this important for all students – including those with physical or cognitive disabilities?”
“在做一个性行为的决定之前,为什么说从可靠资源那里得来的信息咨询很重要。为什么这对所有学生都重要-包括那些有生理和认知缺陷的人。”
Students: “Having more information – and information that you can trust – helps you make better decisions for yourself. Taking time to get more information also gives you more time to think. Teens who consult a health professional before being sexually active are more likely to use protection, such as condoms, if they choose to be sexually active.” “Teens with physical or cognitive disabilities still need information about sexual health, just like everybody else. They may be dealing with different issues, like adapting sexual health information to their particular needs, or with variations on the same issues, like privacy and self-image.”
"获得更多信息-那些你能信任的信息-可帮助你做更好的决定。在获取更多信息上花费时间同时也是让你考虑更长时间的方式。那些在性行为前向专业人员充分咨询了的青少年,更愿意用保护措施,比如避孕套,如果他们选择性行为的话。"
"生理或认知障碍的青少年也需要性健康知识的普及,他们和其他人一样。他们可能面对与我们不同的问题,比如适用于他们特殊需要的性健康信息,或者可能是对同一问题的变异,比如隐私和自我形象。"
C1.5 demonstrate an understanding of gender identity (e.g., male, female, two-spirited, transgender, transsexual, intersex), gender expression, and sexual orientation (e.g., heterosexual, gay, lesbian, bisexual), and identify factors that can help individuals of all identities and orientations develop a positive self-concept [PS]
性别认同(男,女,双灵人,跨性别,变性者,雌雄同体者),性别表达,性取向(异性恋,男同性恋,女同,双性恋),那些可以帮助个体建立积极的自我认知的因素。[个人技巧]
Teacher prompt: “Gender identity refers to a person’s internal sense or feeling of being male or female, which may or may not be the same as the person’s biological sex. It is different from and does not determine a person’s sexual orientation. Sexual orientation refers to a person’s sense of affection and sexual attraction for people of the same sex, the opposite sex, or both sexes. Gender expression refers to how you demonstrate your gender (based on traditional gender roles) through the ways you act, dress, and behave. Gender identity, gender expression, and sexual orientation are connected to the way you see yourself and to your interactions with others. Understanding and accepting your gender identity and your sexual orientation can have a strong impact on the development of your self-concept. A person’s self-concept can develop positively if the person understands and accepts their gender identity and sexual orientation and is accepted by family and community. It is harder to develop a positive self-concept, however, if the way a person feels or identifies does not meet perceived or real societal norms and expectations or is not what they want, or if they do not feel supported by their family, friends, school, or community. A person’s self-concept can be harmed if a person is questioning their gender identity or sexual orientation and does not have support in dealing with their feelings of uncertainty. What kind of support do people need to help them understand and accept their gender identity and sexual orientation?”
"性别认同是指,一个人内在的对自己是男或是女的感觉,它可能,也可能不会与你生理性别相同。性别认同与性取向无关。性取向是指,一个人对爱和性上吸引他的人的感觉,那人也许与他同性别,异性别,或两者兼可。性别表达,是指一个人怎样表现他的性别(建立在传统性别角色上的性别),通过表达方式,衣着,行为举止。性别认同,性别表达,性取向联系在一起,构成你怎样看待自己,怎样与他人互动。对你自己的性别认同,性取向的理解和接受,对你发展自我有很大的冲击力。如果你和你的家人对这些是接受和理解的,那么对形成自我是个积极的作用。发展出积极的自我是很难的,如果一个人的感知也认知与社会规范和期望不符,或是与家人,朋友1,学校社区的眼光不符。一个人的自我认知会被损害掉,如果他的性别认同或性取向被质疑,并得不到感情上的支持。在这方面,人们需要什么样的支持。"
Student: “Having role models that you can relate to – for example, people of similar ages or cultures – is important. So is having all gender identities and sexual orientations por¬trayed positively in the media, in literature, and in materials we use at school. Family, school, and community support are crucial. Additional help can come from trusted adults, community organizations, and school support groups such as gay-straight alliances.”
"在有你相关的团体中成为模范 - 比如,和你年龄文化相仿的人群 - 很重要。在媒体,文学作品,学校用的资料中,对所有性别认同和各种性取向的正面描述。家庭,学校,社区的支持很关键。另外的支持来自信任的成年人,社区组织者,学校社工组织,比如同性恋者联盟。"
C2.4 demonstrate an understanding of aspects of sexual health and safety, including contraception and condom use for pregnancy and STI prevention, the concept of consent, and matters they need to consider and skills they need to use in order to make safe and healthy decisions about sexual activity (e.g., self-knowledge; abstinence; delaying first intercourse; establishing, dis¬cussing, and respecting boundaries; showing respect; need for additional information and support; safer sex and pleasure; communication, assertiveness, and refusal skills) [IS, CT]
性健康和性安全上的理解,包括避孕和避孕套的使用,为纺织怀孕和性病,同意的概念,和他们应考虑的为做出更安全更健康的性行为的相关事宜。(自我了解;节制,推迟首次性行为,建立,讨论,和尊重界限;表达尊重;对更多信息和支持的需求;更安全的性和愉悦;交流,独断力,和拒绝的技巧。)[人际交往技巧,创造性思维]
Teacher prompt: “What do teenagers need to know about contraception and safer sex in order to protect their sexual health and set appropriate personal limits?”
"对于避孕和安全的性,青少年们应该知道些什么知识,使得他们更好的保护自己和设立正确的个人承受极限。"
Student: “Teenagers need to know about the benefits and risks of different types of contraception. They need to understand that the only 100 per cent sure way of not becoming pregnant or getting an STI, including HIV, is not having sexual contact. Those who choose to be sexually active also need to know which contraceptive methods provide a protective barrier against disease as well as pregnancy. Condoms provide protection against both pregnancy and STIs – but to be effective, they need to be used properly and used every time. Teenagers need to understand how important it is to talk with their partners about sexual health choices, consent, and keeping safe. They have to develop the skills to communicate their thoughts effectively, listen respectfully, and read body cues in these conversations. This takes practice.”
"青少年应该了解不同避孕方法的优点和风险。他们必须知道,唯一一个100%安全的使你避免染病包括HIV和怀孕的方法,就是避免性接触。那些想要性生活的人应该知道,哪种避孕方法提供了一个积极的对疾病和受孕的护拦。避孕套提供了一个保护 - 但要想有效果,你必须正确的使用,并且每次都用。青少年必须知道交谈有多么重要,与你的配偶交谈关于性方面的选择,同意,还有保持安全。他们应该学习怎样更有效的发展他们的交流技巧,尊重他人的倾听方式,在交谈中解读身体语言,这需要实践。"
C3.3 analyse the attractions and benefits associated with being in a relationship (e.g., support, understanding, camaraderie, pleasure), as well as the benefits, risks, and drawbacks, for them¬selves and others, of relationships involving different degrees of sexual intimacy (e.g., hurt when relationships end or trust is broken; in more sexually intimate relationships, risk of STIs and related risk to future fertility, unintended pregnancy, sexual harassment and exploitation; potential for dating violence) [IS, CT]
分析处在一个关系中的益处和吸引力(支持,理解,友情,愉悦),和处于不同程度的亲密关系的益处,风险,缺点。(关系终结时的伤害或者信任的丧失;更亲密的性关系;性病和未来生育的风险,意外怀孕,性侵犯和滥交;潜在的恋爱暴力)[个人技巧,创造思维]
Teacher prompt: “There are pros and cons to being in a relationship, and when you are in a relationship, there are positive things and drawbacks associated with different levels of intimacy. All of them are important to think about. There is a range of intimate behaviours that people can use to show caring and connection in a relationship, and different levels of risk associated with different levels of intimacy. Intimate behaviours can include holding hands, hugging, kissing, touching bodies and genitals, and engaging in sexual intercourse. When considering the level of intimacy that is appropriate for their relationship, what does a couple need to think about?”
"保持一个关系有利有弊,当你处在一个关系中,不同亲密度的关系会有一些好处和缺点。所有这些都是很重要的需要考虑的。人们在表现关怀和保持关系时会有一个亲密尺度,不同亲密度的关系有不同风险,亲密关系包括拉手,拥抱,吻,身体和生殖器触摸,性交。当考虑亲密关系时,一对情侣应该想些什么?"
Student: “Both individuals need to consider their own values and beliefs and treat each other’s choices and limits with respect. If one partner chooses to abstain from a sexual activity – for example, a person might want to kiss but not want to have any genital contact – the other partner needs to respect that decision. Both partners need to have the confidence and comfort level to talk about how they can show their affection while respecting each other’s decisions.”
"双方都应考虑各自的价值感和信仰,并尊重对方的选择和承受力。如果其中一方选择避免性行为 - 比如,一方想吻对方但不想有任何生殖器接触-另一方应该尊重。在交谈中双方都应有足够的信心和舒适程度,来面对他们怎样才能表达他们的感情和尊重对方的决定。"
Teacher: “Being intimate with someone includes having a good understanding of the concept of consent. What are some of the important things that we need to understand about consent?”
与他人的亲密中,包括对同意这个概念的深入理解。什么是重要的,关于同意的理解。
Student: “Consent to one activity doesn’t imply consent to all sexual activity. It is import¬ant to ask for consent at every stage. Consent is communicated, not assumed. You can ask your partner simple questions to be sure that they want to continue: ‘Do you want to do this?’ or ‘Do you want to stop?’ A ‘no’ at any stage does not need any further explanation.”
“同意一个行为并不意味着他同意所有的行为。在每个阶段都征求同意是非常重要的。同意是交流,不是假设。你可以通过一个简单的询问来确保他是想要继续的:'你真想做这个么?'或者'你真想停止么?'在任何一个阶段出现一个'no,你都不可以再往前走。'”
Teacher: “How can being in an intimate relationship affect other relationships in your life?”
“一个亲密关系是怎样影响你其他关系的。”
Student: “When you have a boyfriend or a girlfriend, sometimes friends treat you differ¬ently. You might start hanging out with different people or spending less time with some friends. You might have less time to spend with family. It’s important to be aware of what is happening, so that you can take steps to avoid neglecting other relationships that are important to you.”
“当你有了个男朋友或女朋友,其他朋友待的方式可能改变了。你可能要和不同的人呆在一起了,或者和以前的朋友疏远了。你和家人相处的时间也许也短了。意识到即将发生这些变化,是很重要的,这样当那些对你同样重要的关系要受到负面影响时,你能采取步骤。”更多精彩文章及讨论,请光临枫下论坛 rolia.net
C1.4 identify and explain factors that can affect an individual’s decisions about sexual activity (e.g., previous thinking about reasons to wait, including making a choice to delay sexual activity and establishing personal limits; perceived personal readiness; peer pressure; desire; curiosity; self-concept; awareness and acceptance of gender identity and sexual orientation; physical or cognitive disabilities and possible associated assumptions; legal concerns; awareness of health risks, including risk of STIs and blood-borne infections; concerns about risk of pregnancy; use of alcohol or drugs; personal or family values; religious beliefs; cultural teachings; access to information; media messages), and identify sources of support regarding sexual health (e.g., a health professional [doctor, nurse, public health practitioner], a community elder, a teacher, a religious leader, a parent or other trusted adult, a reputable website) [PS]
那些对一个人决定性生活起作用的因素(以前对等待的考虑,包括做推迟的选择和个人承受极限的建立,对个人准备与否的感悟,同伴压力,愿望;好奇心;自我认知;对性别认同的意识和接纳,性取向;生理和认知上的不足,可能的假定;法律上的顾虑;健康风险的意识,包括STI和血液传染的风险;怀孕风险的顾虑;使用酒精和药物;个人和家庭的价值感;信仰;具有某种文化背景的教学法;对信息的使用;媒体信息),确认关于性健康的支持来源(一个专业人员[医生,护士,公共护士],社区长者,老师,宗教领袖,家长或信任的成年人,声誉好大网站)[个人技能]
Teacher prompt: “How would thinking about your personal limits and making a personal plan influence decisions you may choose to make about sexual activity?”
"在性生活的决定中,怎样考虑你个人的承受极限,个人计划的影响。"
Student: “Thinking in advance about what I value and what my personal limits are would help me to respond and make decisions that I felt comfortable with in different situations. I would be able to approach a situation with more confidence and stick to what I had planned. I would be less likely to be caught off guard and have to react without having thought through the options and possible consequences.”
“提前考虑到我的价值,我的承受力,可以让我在不同情况下感到舒适与否并做出回音和决定。我愿意进入那种令我产生更多信心的或者是预知的场合。我不喜欢参与那种没有保护的,突发性的,后果难以预料的事物。”
Teacher prompt: “Why is it important to get information from a credible source before making a decision about being sexually active? Why is this important for all students – including those with physical or cognitive disabilities?”
“在做一个性行为的决定之前,为什么说从可靠资源那里得来的信息咨询很重要。为什么这对所有学生都重要-包括那些有生理和认知缺陷的人。”
Students: “Having more information – and information that you can trust – helps you make better decisions for yourself. Taking time to get more information also gives you more time to think. Teens who consult a health professional before being sexually active are more likely to use protection, such as condoms, if they choose to be sexually active.” “Teens with physical or cognitive disabilities still need information about sexual health, just like everybody else. They may be dealing with different issues, like adapting sexual health information to their particular needs, or with variations on the same issues, like privacy and self-image.”
"获得更多信息-那些你能信任的信息-可帮助你做更好的决定。在获取更多信息上花费时间同时也是让你考虑更长时间的方式。那些在性行为前向专业人员充分咨询了的青少年,更愿意用保护措施,比如避孕套,如果他们选择性行为的话。"
"生理或认知障碍的青少年也需要性健康知识的普及,他们和其他人一样。他们可能面对与我们不同的问题,比如适用于他们特殊需要的性健康信息,或者可能是对同一问题的变异,比如隐私和自我形象。"
C1.5 demonstrate an understanding of gender identity (e.g., male, female, two-spirited, transgender, transsexual, intersex), gender expression, and sexual orientation (e.g., heterosexual, gay, lesbian, bisexual), and identify factors that can help individuals of all identities and orientations develop a positive self-concept [PS]
性别认同(男,女,双灵人,跨性别,变性者,雌雄同体者),性别表达,性取向(异性恋,男同性恋,女同,双性恋),那些可以帮助个体建立积极的自我认知的因素。[个人技巧]
Teacher prompt: “Gender identity refers to a person’s internal sense or feeling of being male or female, which may or may not be the same as the person’s biological sex. It is different from and does not determine a person’s sexual orientation. Sexual orientation refers to a person’s sense of affection and sexual attraction for people of the same sex, the opposite sex, or both sexes. Gender expression refers to how you demonstrate your gender (based on traditional gender roles) through the ways you act, dress, and behave. Gender identity, gender expression, and sexual orientation are connected to the way you see yourself and to your interactions with others. Understanding and accepting your gender identity and your sexual orientation can have a strong impact on the development of your self-concept. A person’s self-concept can develop positively if the person understands and accepts their gender identity and sexual orientation and is accepted by family and community. It is harder to develop a positive self-concept, however, if the way a person feels or identifies does not meet perceived or real societal norms and expectations or is not what they want, or if they do not feel supported by their family, friends, school, or community. A person’s self-concept can be harmed if a person is questioning their gender identity or sexual orientation and does not have support in dealing with their feelings of uncertainty. What kind of support do people need to help them understand and accept their gender identity and sexual orientation?”
"性别认同是指,一个人内在的对自己是男或是女的感觉,它可能,也可能不会与你生理性别相同。性别认同与性取向无关。性取向是指,一个人对爱和性上吸引他的人的感觉,那人也许与他同性别,异性别,或两者兼可。性别表达,是指一个人怎样表现他的性别(建立在传统性别角色上的性别),通过表达方式,衣着,行为举止。性别认同,性别表达,性取向联系在一起,构成你怎样看待自己,怎样与他人互动。对你自己的性别认同,性取向的理解和接受,对你发展自我有很大的冲击力。如果你和你的家人对这些是接受和理解的,那么对形成自我是个积极的作用。发展出积极的自我是很难的,如果一个人的感知也认知与社会规范和期望不符,或是与家人,朋友1,学校社区的眼光不符。一个人的自我认知会被损害掉,如果他的性别认同或性取向被质疑,并得不到感情上的支持。在这方面,人们需要什么样的支持。"
Student: “Having role models that you can relate to – for example, people of similar ages or cultures – is important. So is having all gender identities and sexual orientations por¬trayed positively in the media, in literature, and in materials we use at school. Family, school, and community support are crucial. Additional help can come from trusted adults, community organizations, and school support groups such as gay-straight alliances.”
"在有你相关的团体中成为模范 - 比如,和你年龄文化相仿的人群 - 很重要。在媒体,文学作品,学校用的资料中,对所有性别认同和各种性取向的正面描述。家庭,学校,社区的支持很关键。另外的支持来自信任的成年人,社区组织者,学校社工组织,比如同性恋者联盟。"
C2.4 demonstrate an understanding of aspects of sexual health and safety, including contraception and condom use for pregnancy and STI prevention, the concept of consent, and matters they need to consider and skills they need to use in order to make safe and healthy decisions about sexual activity (e.g., self-knowledge; abstinence; delaying first intercourse; establishing, dis¬cussing, and respecting boundaries; showing respect; need for additional information and support; safer sex and pleasure; communication, assertiveness, and refusal skills) [IS, CT]
性健康和性安全上的理解,包括避孕和避孕套的使用,为纺织怀孕和性病,同意的概念,和他们应考虑的为做出更安全更健康的性行为的相关事宜。(自我了解;节制,推迟首次性行为,建立,讨论,和尊重界限;表达尊重;对更多信息和支持的需求;更安全的性和愉悦;交流,独断力,和拒绝的技巧。)[人际交往技巧,创造性思维]
Teacher prompt: “What do teenagers need to know about contraception and safer sex in order to protect their sexual health and set appropriate personal limits?”
"对于避孕和安全的性,青少年们应该知道些什么知识,使得他们更好的保护自己和设立正确的个人承受极限。"
Student: “Teenagers need to know about the benefits and risks of different types of contraception. They need to understand that the only 100 per cent sure way of not becoming pregnant or getting an STI, including HIV, is not having sexual contact. Those who choose to be sexually active also need to know which contraceptive methods provide a protective barrier against disease as well as pregnancy. Condoms provide protection against both pregnancy and STIs – but to be effective, they need to be used properly and used every time. Teenagers need to understand how important it is to talk with their partners about sexual health choices, consent, and keeping safe. They have to develop the skills to communicate their thoughts effectively, listen respectfully, and read body cues in these conversations. This takes practice.”
"青少年应该了解不同避孕方法的优点和风险。他们必须知道,唯一一个100%安全的使你避免染病包括HIV和怀孕的方法,就是避免性接触。那些想要性生活的人应该知道,哪种避孕方法提供了一个积极的对疾病和受孕的护拦。避孕套提供了一个保护 - 但要想有效果,你必须正确的使用,并且每次都用。青少年必须知道交谈有多么重要,与你的配偶交谈关于性方面的选择,同意,还有保持安全。他们应该学习怎样更有效的发展他们的交流技巧,尊重他人的倾听方式,在交谈中解读身体语言,这需要实践。"
C3.3 analyse the attractions and benefits associated with being in a relationship (e.g., support, understanding, camaraderie, pleasure), as well as the benefits, risks, and drawbacks, for them¬selves and others, of relationships involving different degrees of sexual intimacy (e.g., hurt when relationships end or trust is broken; in more sexually intimate relationships, risk of STIs and related risk to future fertility, unintended pregnancy, sexual harassment and exploitation; potential for dating violence) [IS, CT]
分析处在一个关系中的益处和吸引力(支持,理解,友情,愉悦),和处于不同程度的亲密关系的益处,风险,缺点。(关系终结时的伤害或者信任的丧失;更亲密的性关系;性病和未来生育的风险,意外怀孕,性侵犯和滥交;潜在的恋爱暴力)[个人技巧,创造思维]
Teacher prompt: “There are pros and cons to being in a relationship, and when you are in a relationship, there are positive things and drawbacks associated with different levels of intimacy. All of them are important to think about. There is a range of intimate behaviours that people can use to show caring and connection in a relationship, and different levels of risk associated with different levels of intimacy. Intimate behaviours can include holding hands, hugging, kissing, touching bodies and genitals, and engaging in sexual intercourse. When considering the level of intimacy that is appropriate for their relationship, what does a couple need to think about?”
"保持一个关系有利有弊,当你处在一个关系中,不同亲密度的关系会有一些好处和缺点。所有这些都是很重要的需要考虑的。人们在表现关怀和保持关系时会有一个亲密尺度,不同亲密度的关系有不同风险,亲密关系包括拉手,拥抱,吻,身体和生殖器触摸,性交。当考虑亲密关系时,一对情侣应该想些什么?"
Student: “Both individuals need to consider their own values and beliefs and treat each other’s choices and limits with respect. If one partner chooses to abstain from a sexual activity – for example, a person might want to kiss but not want to have any genital contact – the other partner needs to respect that decision. Both partners need to have the confidence and comfort level to talk about how they can show their affection while respecting each other’s decisions.”
"双方都应考虑各自的价值感和信仰,并尊重对方的选择和承受力。如果其中一方选择避免性行为 - 比如,一方想吻对方但不想有任何生殖器接触-另一方应该尊重。在交谈中双方都应有足够的信心和舒适程度,来面对他们怎样才能表达他们的感情和尊重对方的决定。"
Teacher: “Being intimate with someone includes having a good understanding of the concept of consent. What are some of the important things that we need to understand about consent?”
与他人的亲密中,包括对同意这个概念的深入理解。什么是重要的,关于同意的理解。
Student: “Consent to one activity doesn’t imply consent to all sexual activity. It is import¬ant to ask for consent at every stage. Consent is communicated, not assumed. You can ask your partner simple questions to be sure that they want to continue: ‘Do you want to do this?’ or ‘Do you want to stop?’ A ‘no’ at any stage does not need any further explanation.”
“同意一个行为并不意味着他同意所有的行为。在每个阶段都征求同意是非常重要的。同意是交流,不是假设。你可以通过一个简单的询问来确保他是想要继续的:'你真想做这个么?'或者'你真想停止么?'在任何一个阶段出现一个'no,你都不可以再往前走。'”
Teacher: “How can being in an intimate relationship affect other relationships in your life?”
“一个亲密关系是怎样影响你其他关系的。”
Student: “When you have a boyfriend or a girlfriend, sometimes friends treat you differ¬ently. You might start hanging out with different people or spending less time with some friends. You might have less time to spend with family. It’s important to be aware of what is happening, so that you can take steps to avoid neglecting other relationships that are important to you.”
“当你有了个男朋友或女朋友,其他朋友待的方式可能改变了。你可能要和不同的人呆在一起了,或者和以前的朋友疏远了。你和家人相处的时间也许也短了。意识到即将发生这些变化,是很重要的,这样当那些对你同样重要的关系要受到负面影响时,你能采取步骤。”更多精彩文章及讨论,请光临枫下论坛 rolia.net