U are a jerk, full of shit, 30000RMB, big deal? I sent my parent 100000RMB in one shot and I collectively sent them more than 20000RMB while my income is 65k,and I still feel guity because I can not stay together with and accompany them.XIAO IS NO1 thing, it is already late to do that, u want to cry the shit of youself and felt very gulity when they die?Tell your wife something have to do must be done, u will make more money to compensate her,sorry for the harsh words but I really feel you are bad because u have that high income.u wife do not understand what the XIAO is maybe because of her rich background,but u should understand XIAO very well.we can only leave alone XIAO in terms of money when our parents are richer than us.but we still need to do something for them.All chinese immigrants whose parents in china are already not zhong,not xiao. do not make our sin bigger.I have pains, I have sins when I can not do much,give much to my Mom,I have 4 siblings in china, but that will not exampt my guilt