我觉得那个女孩是性格很柔弱又单纯的那种，是没有什么大心计和主见的人，否则也不会傻到把这种实话说给自己的男朋友，她肯定是没有报警，因为她不想这个事情曝光。

allgone07(过去现在和未来)

再说，我估计那是几年前发生在中国的事情，试想，在加拿大法律下，谁大胆竟敢rape一个friend，而不是girl friend。犯得着冒坐牢的风险吗，然后背上犯罪记录，难找工作，无法入籍？

在国内发生的话，女孩不报警情有可原。若真是在加拿大发生的，而没有报警，的确是此女性格过于软弱，值得同情，不太值得尊敬。

不过，我觉得该不该离开她，不能以报没报警来决定，而要看LZ能否去掉自己的心魔。

如果你把自己的女人，看成你的私有财产，一旦发现她是二手货，不干净，就有被欺骗的感觉，那就趁早退货，重新找处女。如果你真的爱她，而不仅仅是爱她的肉体，你还care她一生的幸福，如果你想到她痛苦你的心还会疼，那就继续试着爱她把。过一段时间，冷静一下，如果你们还能好好的做爱，那你们还有过下去的希望。

Last but not the least, I am a man, not a lady. Don't prejudge please.

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我劝你分手了8 -kqc(海市); 2007-10-4 {27} (#3973154@0)

饶了那位姑娘8，勉强也没意思

It's really painful as we are in love for long to give up. But it will not go away from my mind. And she will be very miserable for a long time if I leave her now. -ifc2007(ifc); 2007-10-4 (#3973176@0)

如果你跟她结婚了，心里有棵刺，将来还是过不好，迟早都要伤害她，不如早放手了。 -9604(眯眯眼); 2007-10-6 (#3976107@0)

if i were u, i would console her and stay with her. -rune(招财猫oldPeter); 2007-10-5 (#3973584@0)

stupid question! u don't love her as u think. -bluebbird(learn to forget); 2007-10-5 (#3973585@0)

前段时间好像有过类似的话题.... -pingaling(天凉好个秋); 2007-10-5 (#3973592@0)

问题的关键在于,你是不是爱过她,你爱她有多深?你现在是不是还爱她？ -allgone07(过去现在和未来); 2007-10-5 {809} (#3973609@0)

从你的post中，感觉你们感情是不错的，否则，那个女孩也不会傻到要把过去最隐秘的经历告诉你，看到出，你们的关系让她觉得你就是她的男人了，所以才这么信任你，说明她爱你很深很深，她要把自己的心交给你，只是她对男人，尤其是中国男人了解的不够深，犯了和电影里的那个台丝一样的错误。如果你真的爱，象她爱你那样深，你就应该更好的呵护她，让她不再受伤害。毕竟过去的事情，不是她的错。当然，如果你对她的历史，心里总有疙瘩，而且这个疙瘩永远解不开，那就不要仅仅因为同情而接纳她，那样对双方都是不公平的。

一个真正的男人，要有宽广的胸怀，对自己爱的女人，尤其要宽厚些，何况不是她的错。你现在接纳了她，她会死心塌地的爱你一辈子，反之，她再也不会相信男人了，她将收到的伤害，不亚于以前的rape。那时，你的心，何以平安？你愿意看到你爱的女人从此消沉吗？

事情刚刚被发现，你心里受的刺激很大，别急着做结论，也许，过段时间，你就会明白过来。

嗯，有理有理 -pingaling(天凉好个秋); 2007-10-5 (#3973620@0)
a friend of mine run into the same situation like you many years ago. He left her and never see her again. Now he married to another girl. -simmersnake(步履无声); 2007-10-5 (#3973681@0)

since u ask, that means u r not mature enough to handle it mentally. If I were you, I wouldn't even ask such a question.. -beit(左黄右苍); 2007-10-5 (#3973615@0)

如果是爱，一定能包容一切。 -780623(绿叶对根的情意); 2007-10-5 (#3973680@0)

问了，就是还有问题。 -lok(lok); 2007-10-5 (#3973818@0)

如果现在心里还是很乱的话，推荐你一本小说吧。《光射之海》by 铃木光司，作者成名作是《午夜凶铃》，但这部并不是恐怖小说。 -xizangren(summer); 2007-10-5 (#3973877@0)

Did she call the police and sue that guy?. If not, you should leave her because she has serious personality flaw. If yes, stay with her. -mauser_98k(old rifle); 2007-10-5 (#3973933@0)

我觉得那个女孩是性格很柔弱又单纯的那种，是没有什么大心计和主见的人，否则也不会傻到把这种实话说给自己的男朋友，她肯定是没有报警，因为她不想这个事情曝光。 -allgone07(过去现在和未来); 2007-10-5 {741} (#3974046@0)
再说，我估计那是几年前发生在中国的事情，试想，在加拿大法律下，谁大胆竟敢rape一个friend，而不是girl friend。犯得着冒坐牢的风险吗，然后背上犯罪记录，难找工作，无法入籍？

在国内发生的话，女孩不报警情有可原。若真是在加拿大发生的，而没有报警，的确是此女性格过于软弱，值得同情，不太值得尊敬。

不过，我觉得该不该离开她，不能以报没报警来决定，而要看LZ能否去掉自己的心魔。

如果你把自己的女人，看成你的私有财产，一旦发现她是二手货，不干净，就有被欺骗的感觉，那就趁早退货，重新找处女。如果你真的爱她，而不仅仅是爱她的肉体，你还care她一生的幸福，如果你想到她痛苦你的心还会疼，那就继续试着爱她把。过一段时间，冷静一下，如果你们还能好好的做爱，那你们还有过下去的希望。

Last but not the least, I am a man, not a lady. Don't prejudge please.
She did not want to report to the police. -ifc2007(ifc); 2007-10-5 (#3974327@0)

Think about this from a man's perspective. Try to ignore some lady's comments here. If things are in line with common sense and logic, embrace it. If not, attack, reject, or avoid it. -mauser_98k(old rifle); 2007-10-5 (#3973952@0)

I just wanna say it's not her fault. u don't love her as what she believe in, otherwise u wouldn't post here to ask for answer. -i-like(我喜欢); 2007-10-5 (#3974422@0)

If u cannot forgive and understand the situation, the best thing for u to do is leave her along, it will be good for both side. Life is long la, don't hurt her life. -i-like(我喜欢); 2007-10-5 (#3974431@0)

I have serious reservation about her loyalty. It's not she told me about the incident. I called her at the hotel room at night and her friend picked up the phone. She phoned me back in the morning telling me that she was raped by her friend that night. -ifc2007(ifc); 2007-10-5 (#3974455@0)

You call that rape? Wake up man! Not walk, run away! -hunya(--*--); 2007-10-5 (#3974479@0)
You can call the police now if she has evidence. -mauser_98k(old rifle); 2007-10-5 (#3974507@0)
看到你这个回帖，觉得事情和你一开始的发贴就完全不一样了，你这个女友也不简单。如果你没有在hotel给她打电话，如果电话不是那男人接到，她会不会第二天早上告诉你呢？她主要是不想让那人坐牢，而不是其他原因，假设她真的被rape，仅仅是假设而已。 -allgone07(过去现在和未来); 2007-10-6 {96} (#3975822@0)
她主要是不想让那人坐牢，而不是其他原因，假设她真的被rape，仅仅是假设而已。真情如何，只要他俩知道

男有情女有意的。有的女的（男的也一样）对谁都含情脉脉的，谁都能上手，来者不拒， -9604(眯眯眼); 2007-10-6 (#3976125@0)

walk away from her -ineaton(AN); 2007-10-6 (#3975831@0)
Oh,man! What a freak story you're telling us! Your GF was being with the sexual attacker! Dump her asap. -goggles(烟雨人生); 2007-10-6 (#3976143@0)

The truth is that the incident was not a crime. Or she should have called police. She's trying to protect the guy. -goggles(烟雨人生); 2007-10-6 (#3976148@0)

Did this happen a long time ago? If not and if your GF has some evidence, you can call the police. Actually I can call the police if you want. -mauser_98k(old rifle); 2007-10-5 (#3974512@0)

not long ago. How you can help me to call the police if she did not want to report it. -ifc2007(ifc); 2007-10-5 (#3974547@0)

Raping is a serious crime, and the offender will tend to do it again if he is not punished. Try to pesuade your GF. -mauser_98k(old rifle); 2007-10-5 (#3974934@0)

同意，支持！ -eaglebrook(溪流); 2007-10-5 (#3975100@0)

I tried very hard to persuade her and she did not want others know about it. I'm pretty upset as well. -ifc2007(ifc); 2007-10-5 (#3975109@0)

不管你们之间的感情怎样，但这个女的脑子好像有问题，缺乏基本的处事能力和判断力。她既然不想报警，又而必告诉你？她还以为你是她爹妈？ -whatifso8(高中生); 2007-10-6 (#3976112@0)

no.. not she told him. it was he found out~ -bluebbird(learn to forget); 2007-10-6 (#3976179@0)

gee, now, i think she cheated on u...poor guy. if u choose to stay with her, do expect the same story will happen again... -bluebbird(learn to forget); 2007-10-6 (#3976178@0)

She is very smart and pretty. But she is very stupid to trust her friend while travelling to another city. Her friend called her room and said he wanted to come and sent her a gift. Anyway thank you for your suggestions. I've made up my mind. -ifc2007(ifc); 2007-10-6 (#3976220@0)

ic...now, we hear the full story.... i guess she's very young and doesn't really know how to protect herself. everyone makes stupid mistakes.... do whatever u feel it's right ba. -bluebbird(learn to forget); 2007-10-6 (#3976234@0)
she knew the man likes her, and knew what would happen during the trip. she is not stupid, she might think you are.. sorry to say that. -9604(眯眯眼); 2007-10-6 (#3976346@0)

if what you stated here was true, she deserves a man way better than you. -baisuzhen(livingw/imperfection); 2007-10-6 (#3976242@0)

@Ontario

我觉得那个女孩是性格很柔弱又单纯的那种，是没有什么大心计和主见的人，否则也不会傻到把这种实话说给自己的男朋友，她肯定是没有报警，因为她不想这个事情曝光。

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