本文发表在 rolia.net 枫下论坛I’ve been struggling with this issue for several months and it’s still not resolved.
1. I met her 1+ year ago, and since then we’ve become close that we started talking about marriage. I love the girl, and she has every good point that you’d want in a wife, except for one: her looks. not that she’s unattractive, she’s just short of inspiring and unfortunately that's very important to me. I had a few times thinking she might be the one, looking at her smiling face when she was asleep. ultimately, a hole resides inside me despite all those good points, she cannot fill.
2. to make this more complex, i incidentally met the other girl two months back and she has that element taking my breath away, as well as many common interests and hobbies. i knew little about her personality and history yet, but we were quickly connected, she's just the springtime i dreamed of so desperate during the cold winter chills.
i don't want to ride two horses (or say step on two boats) at the same time, need a clear mind moving forward either way.
- if i initiate (or encourage her to initiate) the breakup with my current gf, she would be hurt someway, i am indebted, although she has already sensed that our connections and passion are fading loose. i just feel like she's my sister now. i also think it's irresponsible to be with a nice innocent girl who's 100% on you while you can not reciprocate. i may not be able to meet any other girl with all those wife traits.
- as i make efforts to ask the 2nd girl out, my intuition tells me (I may find out later) she's only good fit as a girlfriend or a lover. she's gorgeous and never lacks of admirers, she also needs some "help" in many ways. she has some temper as most beautiful girls do, dating her and score well won't be easy, cold shoulders occasionally could happen. knowing that everything great comes with a price and risks, that's the challenge i'm willing to take.
I’m not a novice when it comes to girls, but somehow still quite simple minded (or you can call it shallow). i am not getting any younger and like to settle down soon. while my friends have succeeded in their career these years, i'm just doing well. with some great fundamentals and potentials, it could be much better should I not spend such amount of time and energy in these datings and mind games.
guess my close friends are not wise enough to give me what i consider to be solid advice. what would you do, if you were me ? thanks and bow ...更多精彩文章及讨论,请光临枫下论坛 rolia.net
1. I met her 1+ year ago, and since then we’ve become close that we started talking about marriage. I love the girl, and she has every good point that you’d want in a wife, except for one: her looks. not that she’s unattractive, she’s just short of inspiring and unfortunately that's very important to me. I had a few times thinking she might be the one, looking at her smiling face when she was asleep. ultimately, a hole resides inside me despite all those good points, she cannot fill.
2. to make this more complex, i incidentally met the other girl two months back and she has that element taking my breath away, as well as many common interests and hobbies. i knew little about her personality and history yet, but we were quickly connected, she's just the springtime i dreamed of so desperate during the cold winter chills.
i don't want to ride two horses (or say step on two boats) at the same time, need a clear mind moving forward either way.
- if i initiate (or encourage her to initiate) the breakup with my current gf, she would be hurt someway, i am indebted, although she has already sensed that our connections and passion are fading loose. i just feel like she's my sister now. i also think it's irresponsible to be with a nice innocent girl who's 100% on you while you can not reciprocate. i may not be able to meet any other girl with all those wife traits.
- as i make efforts to ask the 2nd girl out, my intuition tells me (I may find out later) she's only good fit as a girlfriend or a lover. she's gorgeous and never lacks of admirers, she also needs some "help" in many ways. she has some temper as most beautiful girls do, dating her and score well won't be easy, cold shoulders occasionally could happen. knowing that everything great comes with a price and risks, that's the challenge i'm willing to take.
I’m not a novice when it comes to girls, but somehow still quite simple minded (or you can call it shallow). i am not getting any younger and like to settle down soon. while my friends have succeeded in their career these years, i'm just doing well. with some great fundamentals and potentials, it could be much better should I not spend such amount of time and energy in these datings and mind games.
guess my close friends are not wise enough to give me what i consider to be solid advice. what would you do, if you were me ? thanks and bow ...更多精彩文章及讨论,请光临枫下论坛 rolia.net