That man should not be blamed. Everyone knows man is not easy to find a decent job, he will feel humiliated if he is a professonal but have to do labor job here. But for woman, she can find a job for living, because bosses here tend to give less competitive opportunity to woman., and woman tends to be contended. So the woman, you should go back to join your husband and your kid, if you still love him, don't try to find out any excuse to explain why you "have to stay" here. Don't you recall the guy who jumped from Donmill bridge to Hw 401, who graduated from Qinghua, got two Ph.Ds, what was wrong with him?