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Build up your feelings

cihi(Cartman)

To start with, I truly agree with those who said you are confused with the severity of the problems. For those major ones, you are considering them "major" maybe because you are very strong on those things so you instantly noticed her weakness. I also think that marriage is not like a product which you can list of its strengths and weaknesses and see whether the product is good for you, I think it is all about feeling ... lets not say LOVE because you guys havent spent anytime together yet and feeling is a product of time, you have to build that up slowly which you guys are lacking of. I suggested you to tell her that you wanna spend some time together first before getting marrid then you can use that period to see the "true" her

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枫下佳缘 / 情爱悠悠 / 要结婚了。向大家请教一下婚后该怎样相处 -fxyz(阿飞); 2006-11-7 {648} (#3308843@0)
我是个书呆子类型的男人，尽管读书的时候成绩很好，但现在只是做着一份薪水并不高的专业工作。前段时间在某交友网站上注册，认识了一个国内的女人，通过email电话msn视频等交往了一段时间，经她同意，打算回国一趟注册结婚了

她的优点是英语好和漂亮吧，缺点就很多了，挣钱能力不强花钱不少，脾气任性太自我，不爱做家务，不过这些都是小问题，相处一下互相迁就就好了。不过有一些可能是严重的问题，比如说她在上高中的时候数学和物理的分数惨不忍睹，最后只好去文科班；她的方向感很差，拿着地图也会迷路；她缺乏逻辑思维，电脑和电子设备总是不会弄，指着说明书教也不行。请教大家，谁有这样的老婆亚？这是不是属于脑子很笨的类型呢？

我和她还没在一起相处过呢，结婚后怎么办啊？请教大家

杞人忧天，你只不过是个运输大队长而已。不用考虑太长远的事情。你的顾虑可能不会发生 -su27(和稀泥); 2006-11-8 (#3308855@0)

同感！结婚还是找这里的比较把握一点。 -westvv(Bestway); 2006-11-8 (#3308962@0)

这样的女人是精品。你不用担心自己做了运输大队长，她连怎么拿你当跳板都想不清楚。 -don.juan(带月荷锄归); 2006-11-8 (#3308861@0)
是不是我太落伍了, 现在的人开放到敢跟没正式交往过的对象结婚? -gyousou(Concrete); 2006-11-8 (#3308865@0)
感觉她不会是个好女人.这么愚蠢的女人还要她做什么?她只是为了出国就盯住那些住在国外的单身. 你回国期间,她为了达到出来的目的会迁就你的举动,等真正来了你就知道你娶到的是一个不讲道理的大小姐. -richard1000(冬青); 2006-11-8 (#3308868@0)

too simple, sometimes naive -sweetlulu(lulu); 2006-11-8 (#3308988@0)

英语好和漂亮不是优点, It's for some budy else. -holly999(酒肴肴-就是下酒小菜); 2006-11-8 (#3308974@0)

英文越好人越漂亮，将来认识的人越多，和别人跑的机会越大。 -tracyd(美好夏天美好生活); 2006-11-8 (#3309462@0)

感觉你对优缺点的视角有问题。那些所谓 “严重问题” 其实是女性的特点，只要你想跟女的结婚，就免不了。但那几个小问题其实是严重问题，尤其是对于恋爱时间不长、感情不那么深的人来说，婚后容易出现麻烦。 -rollor(Rollor); 2006-11-8 (#3309051@0)

GAREE!!! -jessicalu(风中的承诺); 2006-11-8 (#3309104@0)
同感 -sr-71(Blackbird); 2006-11-8 (#3309262@0)

不看好你们的婚姻.如果你自身不是很强的话,漂亮和英语好会变成你的负担. -snowdown(snowdown); 2006-11-8 (#3309052@0)
我怎么觉得你考虑问题刚好反了. -nanrenyerenxing(babio); 2006-11-8 {555} (#3309053@0)
"挣钱能力不强花钱不少，脾气任性太自我，不爱做家务，" 这些才是大问题,其他的是小问题.婚姻最重要的是两个人的相处.如果"挣钱能力不强花钱不少"-自私,"脾气任性太自我"-任性,"不爱做家务"-懒,也未能为你着想,时间长了你就知道了,"相处一下互相迁就就好了"-这是一时的,她的这些性格造就了她不可能迁就你,那么你愿意一直迁就她吗?你刚开始会迁就,然后就会变成忍受,最后忍无可忍...
你真是个书呆子,一点也不懂得感情,因为要结婚而给自己带来更大的苦头,唉,我不想打击你,国内不国内无所谓,但是人品性格这个太重要了.女人要能为丈夫家庭付出牺牲,男人要能承担家庭责任.其他一切都是其次的.

Agree. -sr-71(Blackbird); 2006-11-8 (#3309264@0)
同意. -crystal_clear(水晶心); 2006-11-8 (#3309680@0)

我的个人经验。大小姐也会变成家庭主妇的。只要女人肯努力，什么事都能做到。最重要的一点，就是这个女人真的决定跟你过一辈子。网上认识的太不可靠，需要回国精挑细选。 -niu1986(只吃草的牛); 2006-11-8 {184} (#3309087@0)
我老婆在国内也是大小姐，月光族，又漂亮又蠢。
娶过来以后经过三年的改造，也学会了买菜，做饭，上学，打工，剪coupon，不发脾气，凡事请示老公。基本上已接近完美。
就是护肤品的消费量大了点。

好！你让广大单身男移看到了希望 -zizhe(字者); 2006-11-8 (#3309091@0)
:)))))))))))))) -asker(amour); 2006-11-8 (#3309161@0)

Have you ever seen the movie "Fatal Attraction"? If not, I suggest you have a look as soon as possible. I instinctively feel you will have trouble and that girl might not be for you PERMANENTLY. Sorry to say so. -asker(amour); 2006-11-8 (#3309156@0)
一定要试一下婚，不是处女，立刻甩掉。 -niu1986(只吃草的牛); 2006-11-8 (#3309166@0)

要是处女,还让你试? -guesshu(guess); 2006-11-8 (#3309254@0)

你还是缓一缓结婚, 先锻炼自己一下再说. 多和已婚男谈心, 认识一下什么是女性真正的缺点, 什么是通病. 你还真是纯情派, 恐怕一半以上18岁小男生对女孩子的认识都比你强, HOHOHO -7y7(醉里吴音); 2006-11-8 (#3309250@0)

已婚男可能只交过一个女朋友，也不知道通病阿 -tuantuan(油价跌破70); 2006-11-8 (#3309590@0)

书呆子 -sr-71(Blackbird); 2006-11-8 (#3309261@0)
你可以继续找更好的。一样在国内找就一定不能将就，一定要完美，任何缺点都要毫不犹豫地晒去。找对象应该在国内，毕竟国内潜力巨大，优秀MM数不胜数。 -gthm(再现江湖); 2006-11-8 (#3309278@0)
Is she your first girl friend?... It seems to me that you just want to find some girl and get married ASAP.... -ruby92(桃逃*世界和平); 2006-11-8 (#3309312@0)
Do you really love each other? The only reason for marriage is LOVE. -6bear6(maple bear); 2006-11-8 (#3309327@0)
Build up your feelings -cihi(Cartman); 2006-11-8 {743} (#3309348@0)
To start with, I truly agree with those who said you are confused with the severity of the problems. For those major ones, you are considering them "major" maybe because you are very strong on those things so you instantly noticed her weakness. I also think that marriage is not like a product which you can list of its strengths and weaknesses and see whether the product is good for you, I think it is all about feeling ... lets not say LOVE because you guys havent spent anytime together yet and feeling is a product of time, you have to build that up slowly which you guys are lacking of. I suggested you to tell her that you wanna spend some time together first before getting marrid then you can use that period to see the "true" her
这个贴子超级搞笑，我中午的free lunch都差点笑出来了。还是认认真真地劝你不要急着结婚了。以后再说吧。 -grace2005(Busy Season); 2006-11-8 (#3309357@0)

He is serious. Don't laugh. -pmme(Hollywoodland); 2006-11-8 (#3309410@0)

我没说他不serious, 可是他自己都没长熟，怎么结婚。结婚就哪么简单呀？ -grace2005(Busy Season); 2006-11-8 (#3309884@0)

向潜在的运输大队长致敬！ -shutter(shutter); 2006-11-8 (#3309406@0)

:DDDD -niu123(牛牛); 2006-11-8 (#3309421@0)

兄弟，你也太性急了点 -niu123(牛牛); 2006-11-8 (#3309429@0)
You are ---属于脑子很笨的类型 -simmersnake(步履无声); 2006-11-8 (#3309479@0)

他自己兴许觉得自己非常的幸运非常的开心，觉得自己快要娶漂亮老婆咯，还是从国内娶来得呢。国内多好呀，那么多女孩子，又美丽又温柔，英文也好。 -tracyd(美好夏天美好生活); 2006-11-8 (#3309494@0)

嘻嘻。。。 -ruby92(桃逃*世界和平); 2006-11-8 (#3309594@0)

兄弟,别怕!他们都嫉妒你!看看TORONTO的MM,有点样子的就敢说是天仙. -falcon7x(鹰飘风流); 2006-11-8 (#3309865@0)

别盯着多伦多呀,看看国内的天仙妹妹啥样. -scent(winnie); 2006-11-8 (#3309895@0)

@Ontario

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