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There is a lady here who exposed her saddest emotions to all of us. All she needs is probably some kind comforts, positive supports and constructive advice. The least she needs is the judgemental comments/criticism and the denial of her feelings at this moment.
Most of us don't have family here, the rolia community is like our family. Every one of us make mistakes, go through emotional ups and downs, struggle financially/physically/emotionally from time to time. Quite percentage of the moms here probably went through the post-mortem depression after giving birth. It is very tough for a new mom to 1) undergo hormone and emotion swings 2) go back to work shortly after birth 3) worry about family financial situation 4) does not have enough sleep 5) don't have a peaceful mind ...etc
Let's be supportive to each other, let's extand our acceptance to other's struggles/difficults/mistakes, like a real family.
LittleSand:
It is ok that things not in perfect situation yet. It is ok that you don't have a solid bonding with your baby yet. It takes time, it really takes time to build. The bonding is not only because she has your blood in her tiny body, it also because you takes care of her day in and day out,because you watch her grow.
It took me a while to feel the bonding too.
I know it is very hard(i went back to work shortly after giving birth too), but be brave.
If I could give some advice, I would say:
1) it is ok to feel guilty, but don't overwhelmed by your emotion. Trust me, we would never prepared well enough for a new born, especially if it is your first one
2) jot down the things that bothers you, and why. the baby, the long working hour, the lack of sleep, the potential financial loss in real estate investment, the care to the new baby...
3) talk to your hobby and try to find all the possible solutions for the issues in 2)
4) pin point what bothers you the most, review the solutions for that very carefully
5) don't try to resolve everything at the same time, work on one or two. Trust me, everything else will start falling into place once you work out the most troublesome one.
6) Learn to let go.Learn to give yourself some time. There are some good relaxation programs and if you are interested, I can provide some information.
I guess i wrote too long already. It may be scary now, but you can really learn and grow from this situation.更多精彩文章及讨论,请光临枫下论坛 rolia.net
There is a lady here who exposed her saddest emotions to all of us. All she needs is probably some kind comforts, positive supports and constructive advice. The least she needs is the judgemental comments/criticism and the denial of her feelings at this moment.
Most of us don't have family here, the rolia community is like our family. Every one of us make mistakes, go through emotional ups and downs, struggle financially/physically/emotionally from time to time. Quite percentage of the moms here probably went through the post-mortem depression after giving birth. It is very tough for a new mom to 1) undergo hormone and emotion swings 2) go back to work shortly after birth 3) worry about family financial situation 4) does not have enough sleep 5) don't have a peaceful mind ...etc
Let's be supportive to each other, let's extand our acceptance to other's struggles/difficults/mistakes, like a real family.
LittleSand:
It is ok that things not in perfect situation yet. It is ok that you don't have a solid bonding with your baby yet. It takes time, it really takes time to build. The bonding is not only because she has your blood in her tiny body, it also because you takes care of her day in and day out,because you watch her grow.
It took me a while to feel the bonding too.
I know it is very hard(i went back to work shortly after giving birth too), but be brave.
If I could give some advice, I would say:
1) it is ok to feel guilty, but don't overwhelmed by your emotion. Trust me, we would never prepared well enough for a new born, especially if it is your first one
2) jot down the things that bothers you, and why. the baby, the long working hour, the lack of sleep, the potential financial loss in real estate investment, the care to the new baby...
3) talk to your hobby and try to find all the possible solutions for the issues in 2)
4) pin point what bothers you the most, review the solutions for that very carefully
5) don't try to resolve everything at the same time, work on one or two. Trust me, everything else will start falling into place once you work out the most troublesome one.
6) Learn to let go.Learn to give yourself some time. There are some good relaxation programs and if you are interested, I can provide some information.
I guess i wrote too long already. It may be scary now, but you can really learn and grow from this situation.更多精彩文章及讨论,请光临枫下论坛 rolia.net