其实你可以THINK POSITIVELY. Your life before must be easy: good job, good salary, etc. Same as you, I did not really have any hardship before I came here. I even rarely cooked any meal though I have been married. After I came here, I had to cook every meal and made plan for every penny as they all went from our savings. It was hard, but I told my mother: now I don’t waste money on things I rarely use (such as cloths worn only once or twice), I am becoming a good cook (I can do dumplings, Baozi, some fancy dishes…), and I am stronger because of some short period labor work. I said, I’ll cook for you when I go home, she’s very happy with my changes. Also, I always told her it’s not bad for us to experience something like this when we are not that old, so we can really grow up, and they won’t need to worry about us later. Actually, what we experienced here is not as hard as the experienced before. Don’t cry, they’ll happy if you feel happy.