People take English too seriously sometimes. Lanuage is just one of tools to express urself -rabbitjessy(QQ) @安省华人论坛:安省枫下论坛 The Rolia Forum of Ontario

枫下佳缘 / 情爱悠悠 / 男生止步，女生请进 -tutotu(乡下兔); 2005-4-11 {184} (#2234735@0)
各位姐姐妹妹，咱们一起来探讨一下找个鬼佬作男友的利弊和注意事项。

本人打算为国际交流作出贡献--找个鬼子作男友。文化差异必然存在，讨教相处之道，希望有相似经历的姐姐妹妹多提醒本人~~谢了

强力支持，为国争光！但是有点难度，素质高的老外不会找少数民族，在素质低的老外中选一个吧 -china_wei(精英内敛戒骄戒惰强矫); 2005-4-11 (#2234749@0)

瞧你这国人!只要是老外素质都高!! -eagle_no1(瞎起哄); 2005-4-11 (#2234772@0)

恩，有道理 -china_wei(精英内敛戒骄戒惰强矫); 2005-4-11 (#2234776@0)

这是精英说的话? :) -peter2005(Peter); 2005-4-11 (#2234782@0)

哈哈哈哈，一时糊涂失言，据传好多老外不但钱多，而且人傻呢 -china_wei(精英内敛戒骄戒惰强矫); 2005-4-11 (#2234791@0)

瞧你聪明的,太聪明了容易变态. -chachacha(茉莉花); 2005-4-11 (#2234926@0)

瞧你恶毒的，太恶毒的容易变丑！ -arfeifei(老顽童); 2005-4-12 (#2235786@0)

看来的确是变态了. -chachacha(茉莉花); 2005-4-12 (#2236873@0)

看来的确是丑八怪！ -arfeifei(老顽童); 2005-4-13 (#2239538@0)

哎呦,碰上一鹦鹉~~ -chachacha(茉莉花); 2005-4-13 (#2239555@0)

错！碰上老顽童！ -arfeifei(老顽童); 2005-4-14 (#2241267@0)

Well, it's better for girl to marry with a " silly" western guy who has less chance to get marriage affair than to marry with a " smart " chinese guy who like to play around some trick during the marriage. -rabbitjessy(QQ); 2005-4-13 (#2237721@0)

不一定。看本人在什么层次。人在什么层次就找什么层次的另一半，无论中外。我认识的几个女孩找的老外都不错。 -wangkeke(wangkeke); 2005-4-12 (#2235360@0)

你自己的性格和爱好是怎么样的啊? -babyface(★Million-$-Baby★); 2005-4-11 (#2234757@0)
找个黑的也不错嘛, 一定会让你舒服的不得了. -firenewt(火蝾螈); 2005-4-11 (#2234790@0)
看论坛里多少同族爷们为了征婚求友,差点给你们跪下了,哈哈.可惜你们没当回事阿,Sigh. 真是"我本将心向明月，耐何明月向沟渠",哈哈哈 -meilan77(新警察); 2005-4-11 (#2234809@0)

黎叔很生气,后果很严重 -bonniecnca(平常心); 2005-4-11 (#2234902@0)

慎行... 找了就不能反转头了. 再也甭想找中国GG了... -huashanpai(xixi); 2005-4-11 (#2234824@0)

为何? -chinadragon(BONE); 2005-4-11 {9} (#2234850@0)
差别太大?

Too -expert3(expert3); 2005-4-11 {5} (#2234915@0)
small

容易两边的朋友都失去。因为俩人和对方的朋友都没法深入的亲密的交往。所以，人家有活动开party渐渐的不会请这对“合壁”couple了。 -wangkeke(wangkeke); 2005-4-12 (#2235363@0)

MAKE TOTALLY SENSE! -mississauga(市政府老市长); 2005-4-12 {263} (#2235565@0)
I have couple of friends married with foreign, every time we get together, just making some silly jokes, no serious talk.... such painful.

when you guys start it, might be very interesting/exciting, later.......no good! .in One Word: dating but no marriage :p

Hi, I will marry this end of year. Do you want to come to my wedding ? -rabbitjessy(QQ); 2005-4-12 {207} (#2237112@0)
Btw, have you ever heard that Giraffe will marry her Canadian bf in this May ?

How come you make this kind of extremly conclusion ? I thought that you are open-minded person.You make so disappointed .:P

sorry rabbit, no offence! just speak out without thinking, i AM "open-minded" guy but no "Heart-Hole". :p -mississauga(市政府老市长); 2005-4-13 {462} (#2239869@0)
absolutely, i would like to be on your wedding! willing to see Rabbit in White!
please send me your card to: 1096 Mcbride Ave. L5C 1M5 Mississauga, ON.

the last wedding i attended is one for Korean, that was so much fun!! a French Girl married a Korean: there were 2 ceremonies; one is western style, another one is Orient style, almost exact Chinese "Dong Fang". on the western one, the groom was crying so badly, made me almost want to marry again! :p

不用管别人怎么看,只管适合不适合自己.人品最重要,不要用族群来划分,个体都不同.还有不用想着两边的亲密朋友,很多事情能用钱自己解决就自己解决,不用求任何人.两个人的世界,比一群人的世界更精彩(个人体验). -nini1998(妮妮--满月); 2005-4-12 {123} (#2235549@0)
至于楼上说的PARTY,我认为只要自己抱着待人处世多吃亏,多送礼物,态度好,应该不是问题.人和人交往不完全在于族群,还有很多方面......

我一个朋友的rmmate，小姑娘，有个老外男朋友，人不错比较成熟。有时候我们吃火锅或过年吃饭，他也一起来凑热闹。可是我们一群人，多数人不会因为迁就他说英语。我们还是大喊我们的语言。他就一个人在旁边坐着。 -wangkeke(wangkeke); 2005-4-12 {421} (#2236568@0)
如果那个小姑娘不是我们很亲密的朋友，如果她不是我朋友的roommate生活在一个aptment里我们躲不开他们的话，我们当然不会主动去邀请他们来。因为，毕竟有点格格不入。

多送礼物和态度好，解决不了文化语言隔阂的问题。人和人从相识到相知的距离，就算是同文同种的人都是很遥远的。

大家上学的，工作的，打工的，平日里都忙碌而艰辛。朋友聚会就是放松大喊的时候。怎么可能人人都有时间精力说着正统的外语去深入了解一个一般朋友的异国男女朋友呢。

再强力支持一把, 欢迎为中国GG们减少困难 -unrestrained(只做有利的); 2005-4-12 (#2235592@0)
多少都会有点卖国的感觉。 -cathy345(雁舞九天); 2005-4-12 (#2235823@0)

斗升小民，哪有那么多的”国”让我们来卖呀？ -table(桌子来了); 2005-4-12 (#2236577@0)

这事要分两面看，文化背景／语言是有差距；但如果他的人品／文化层次／对你的苛护是你在同族人中遇不到的，而这些是选男友的主要因素；你为何不能作出一些牺牲呢？何况适应西方文化对你在西方发展也有利啊！ -lovecalgary(calgary); 2005-4-12 (#2236964@0)
MM你干嘛不贴到枫下佳缘去啊, 你还想男人扪说什么好话吗? -happygirl2002(little); 2005-4-12 (#2236980@0)
据说最近中东地区的恐怖分子喜欢搞中国女人做掩护，你可以往这方面发展一下。 -woodey(乌鬄); 2005-4-12 (#2237064@0)
Actually it all depends urself -rabbitjessy(QQ); 2005-4-12 {1146} (#2237162@0)
本文发表在 rolia.net 枫下论坛First , you have to be open mind at different perception and cluture difference.

Secondly, you also need find a guy whose personality match your type. Regardless of nationality, human being's personality is similar.

I will suggest that you date with guy who is very well-edcuated ( Master degree prefer) and has a decent job. These 2 are important. The better education people have, the easier to deal with.
Furthermore , you also should observe that guy's famil y background. If his parents and his relatives are well-edcuated , you will have less chance to meet wrong person.

The way to deal with relationship in mixed couple is excatly same as the way you deal in same cluture relationship.

Very simple: respect your partner ,be compromised in certain situation.Sometime it's you. Sometime it's him.

In my own case, my bf comproise 90% , I am very lucky. He does all the household chore for me ,and recently he even prepare all my lunch.

We are going to marry this end of year. ^_^

If you have any concern in future, drop me a line at rabbitjessy2004@yahoo.ca. I am willing to give my two cents

Good Luck!更多精彩文章及讨论，请光临枫下论坛 rolia.net

朝仓跳去了，唐塔也跳下去了，我也跳下去了，你还在等什么啊........ -shanbuzhuan(山不转); 2005-4-12 (#2237359@0)

lol -mississauga(市政府老市长); 2005-4-13 (#2239877@0)
提醒一下，这被洋机关枪打过的，咱可是不能再要回来了啊！ -arfeifei(老顽童); 2005-4-14 (#2241270@0)

really poor English -diver(); 2005-4-12 (#2237412@0)

You are absolutely right. My written English isn't great ,since I have always been better in verbal communication. -rabbitjessy(QQ); 2005-4-13 {221} (#2237719@0)
Actually my Chinese written isn't great either. No one is perfect on everything. I don't have any problem to do sales presenation and sales pitch in my current P.O.P sales job.

Please excuse my poor writing, thanks

You call what you worte "written English"? -diver(); 2005-4-13 (#2239295@0)
兔子妹妹的勇气不得不欣赏！当年在Chinasmile上连我这"破英语"也曾经对她发难，但。。。。。不得不佩服！说的好， poor English, but good point! keep trying! -mississauga(市政府老市长); 2005-4-13 (#2239883@0)

People take English too seriously sometimes. Lanuage is just one of tools to express urself -rabbitjessy(QQ); 2005-4-14 {919} (#2240103@0)
Although I have poor English writing, it doesn't impact my life in here. I always can get job I like in here, I can find a guy I like in here and I always can recevie lots of help. My life in here has been always on the rising trend.

If you don't agree with my perspective, please just argue with me on the issue ,not attacking on English.

I am tired of seeing people changing the arguing points to my "poor " English. ( Honestly, is my English really "poor" ? If it is true, I doubted Toefl test should be abolished, since i can easily get 267 of 300) . I knew what's my biggest problem in writing . I always forget put "article " or wrong tense in my sentence. I think that these problem can be fixed by proofreading. I will try my best keeping learning.

Last but not least , English should not be an excuse for many people to fail in job searching ,or building better life in here and etc.

"Last but not least , English should not be an excuse for many people to fail in job searching ,or building better life in here and etc. "---- Way to Go, MM! -mississauga(市政府老市长); 2005-4-14 {44} (#2240275@0)
我看懂了，不过，这句的语法好像毛病也挺多的:p

Please help me to fix it. Criticize isn't helpful , if you really appreciate what I said. -rabbitjessy(QQ); 2005-4-14 (#2241265@0)

Don't be discouraged. Your English is not perfect, so what? You got your message across and we understand what you tried to express. That is good enough. Just keep practising and improving...don't be shy:-)) -dropoutinmiami(饺子-吃是任务); 2005-4-14 (#2241314@0)

Thanks ,dumpling. I won't be discouraged by other people negative comments. -rabbitjessy(QQ); 2005-4-14 {1265} (#2241424@0)
本文发表在 rolia.net 枫下论坛I am not that kind of personality. I am doing what I think right ,not doing by other people's judgement or rule. If I am so easily to be beaten up by other people's criticise, I will be a teacher in a very poor primary school.

Today, on the way to Montreal , I discussed with my canadian boss about my poor English writing. He made excat same point as I did ------English is only one of parts of communication skills.

Furthermore , today I used my poor English skills to get 100k projects from two Montreal cosmetics companies. I am so proud of myself ,because I only have been working in this industry for 3 months. I made 1000 cold callings in 2 months by my poor English and eventually I got deals.

I want to know how many people who speak good or write good English can do this .

Dear Dumpling,

Thanks for your understanding and supportive. I will persist in working on my goal and working on my own way. ^_^ . I am a strong girl, just like you. Don't worry about me.

Btw, how's your pregancy ? Is everything ok ? I noticed that you are interested in doing some business. Why don't you contact me at rabbitjessy2004@yahoo.ca Last week I just registed my own company, I have few business thoughts to discuss with you.更多精彩文章及讨论，请光临枫下论坛 rolia.net

but good point. besides sincere suggestion. -xunzhao(zhaoxun); 2005-4-12 (#2237471@0)
你们这些嫁老外的女同胞，应该去一些英文论坛，你们又喜欢用英文，就不要在中文论坛里显摆了！ -shanbuzhuan(山不转); 2005-4-14 {108} (#2241831@0)
随着中国实力的强大，你们会越来越没有市场，不信，等着看！一条大狼狗带着个小哈巴狗在大街上遛弯，谁都看着别扭。

I want to XXXX you! but BZ will lock my ID!! -falcon7x(飘); 2005-4-13 (#2238606@0)
鞋子舒服不舒服只有自己的脚趾头才知道。看别人的没用。好像当初在国内时听出来的人讲的都是出国的好，在这边骂娘的，回去也说这边如何好。？？？ -thecoolguy(孩哥); 2005-4-13 (#2239326@0)
这骚货找骂!无奈班主封ID,否则..... -falcon7x(飘); 2005-4-13 (#2239785@0)
I have two friends who are married to "gui lao". One of them already had a baby. the other one is now living together with her son. -xunzhao(zhaoxun); 2005-4-13 {199} (#2239872@0)
距离产生美，我想跟他们交往永远会有种“外“的感觉。即使英语再好每天说起话来还是不如母语舒服吧。但是老外的确有老外的优点。碰到合适的人当然要试一试喽。We are living in a multi-culture country anyway !
我不认为有什么大不了的, 完全是个人选择. 而且你的朋友能否与鬼佬交往, 跟你同他结婚没任何关系. -simmersnake(步履无声); 2005-4-14 (#2240021@0)
再多说一句, 凭你这个标题, 我敢说99%的回贴是男生写的. -simmersnake(步履无声); 2005-4-14 (#2240023@0)

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People take English too seriously sometimes. Lanuage is just one of tools to express urself

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