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再见，我的巴基斯坦情人..

anaesthetic(醉梦)

和他在一间公司。他不帅。他在加拿大长大，好听的英语，声音那么柔和。

一次在网上碰到，他说他第二天有事不去上班，我忍不住说，i'll miss you..他说，it's so sweet...but don't miss me too much

终于有约会，我已经不能控制的想念他，他却总是对我说，don't miss me too much...

他是穆斯林。我知道我们的生命没有交集。一次我在coffee shop和他坐在一起，出门他说，你有没有注意到你身后的中国夫妻，他们一直在盯着你我。我说，因为中国人不喜欢印巴人呵。他说，那你是怎么回事？

是呵，我是怎么回事？我是着迷一样的想念他，甚至没有心思做任何事情。可是，我知道我们不会有未来。他甚至劝我，don't get it too serious...

可是，让我怎样和你说再见，我的巴基斯坦情人？

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Last Updated: 2005-4-2
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"因为中国人不喜欢印巴人呵" 你在误导! did not say that based on your thought. 他们两个代表"中国人". 被你一个中国人摆平了? -steven8888(stone); 2005-4-2 (#2217690@0)

她说的是实话！ -everyday(白梦虎); 2005-4-10 {12} (#2233221@0)
证据太多了，

情人让自己去飞翔，老公需要你着路~~~ -flametdu(激情北洋); 2005-4-2 (#2217692@0)

告诉你个办法，到文学城，亲亲宝贝里面，用“穆斯林”作为关键词，查查文章，多看几篇文章，就清醒了。 -realpangxie(匿名); 2005-4-2 (#2217700@0)

谢谢！因为这个原因，我才知道我和他没有结果。只是不知怎样放弃。他说他不是一个很宗教的人，从来不去教堂，但也有些principle不能违抗，比如吃东西。 -anaesthetic(醉梦); 2005-4-2 (#2217714@0)

放弃吧.一个BORN WITH RELIGION的人,是不可能"不宗教"的. -yangtse(Yangtse); 2005-4-2 (#2217721@0)

我明白。个人的力量是不能和宗教的力量抗衡的。我明白 -anaesthetic(醉梦); 2005-4-2 (#2217734@0)

那你就再拿自己的几年青春试试，祝你能修成正果。 -realpangxie(匿名); 2005-4-2 (#2217726@0)

咋就不能厚道点 -steven8888(stone); 2005-4-2 (#2217750@0)

:-P -realpangxie(匿名); 2005-4-2 (#2217768@0)

ding! -steven8888(stone); 2005-4-2 (#2217803@0)

我觉的，他是哪的人，什么宗教都不是很重要。关键是他对你怎么样。从你写的，他好像只是想玩一玩。 -wade(wade); 2005-4-2 (#2217755@0)

没经验了吧，看看那些过来人的文章就知道宗教在婚姻中的重要了 -realpangxie(匿名); 2005-4-2 (#2217786@0)

不这样认为。看人 -wade(wade); 2005-4-2 (#2217814@0)
偶没有经验,不过从感觉上说,感觉西方的文化和宗教包容性更强. -yangtse(Yangtse); 2005-4-2 (#2217817@0)

也许你是对的，因为他也知道我们不可能呵 -anaesthetic(醉梦); 2005-4-2 (#2218060@0)
我们一对加拿大同学，说起来两个对宗教都不太当真，没见他们去过教堂。同居十来年，结婚时候双方家庭忽然闹起来了，一个基督教一个天主教，听说是不可开交，最后逃到某个小岛去结的婚 -7y7(醉里吴音); 2005-4-2 (#2218077@0)

同意 -china_wei(精英内敛戒骄戒惰强矫); 2005-4-3 (#2218703@0)

十之八九没有好结果，如果你相信十之一二，那就坚持。 -maer(马儿-不称霸); 2005-4-3 (#2218725@0)

I think it is all depends. First, how much do you love him? Can you tell why do you love him? How much do you respect him? How much do you respect his culture? -laoningbo(butailao); 2005-4-9 {680} (#2231588@0)

Second, how much does he love you? Can he tell why does he love you? How much does he repect you? How much does he repect your culture?
Third, how much does he like your food? Is he open-minded person? how much do you like his food?
Forth, does his mom get up at 6:00 to prepare the breakfast and lunch for him? Does his mom pray 5 times a day?

If the answer for the Forth is YES, say bye-bye to him. Otherwise, follow your heart, but being with him, means you have to convert to 穆斯林. I had a 穆斯林 boyfriend before, I knew how hard it is to accept a religion that I barely know about. You can never get to serious about this relationship. But they are wonderful person.

为什么穆斯林都那么虔诚呢？ -anaesthetic(醉梦); 2005-4-10 {380} (#2232538@0)
他一个人生活，没有和父母住在一起。

谢谢你。我没法回答这些问题，我只知道，我和他在一起的时候，很快乐。

当我们在公园里漫步，或者在咖啡厅聊天，后来他总是告诉我，刚才有人（多半是中国人）在盯着我们看，好像我们是很奇怪的动物。可是，我往往不能察觉。可能是因为，我太专注于他的原因吧！

短短的一周，我们已经谈过分手。他一次问我，“我们有未来吗？”我摇摇头。这是一份多么伤感的爱情。

Feeling happy is all matters. But can you feel he is as happy as you? If not, just enjoy the time with him and don't get yourself hurt. -laoningbo(butailao); 2005-4-10 {829} (#2232826@0)
If yes, ask him if he can picture himself with you in his future plan.
If you don't have any answer, and you can't answer any of the questions I gave it to you before, you might be just by your own. Why don't you ask him? Get to know the truth is eliminate the chance to hurt you more.
Why does he care about how people look at you two??? My ex, when people staring at us, he would proudly say, we must be the most beautiful couple in the world that people are staring at us, we are so lucky!!!! I gave him up, because in his culture, women take care of family and man, his mom gets up at 6:00 to cook breakfast and lunch for him, no way I will do that for him. I expect he would be the one get up and cook for me. But after all, he made me a better person. Please don't feel sad, be honest to yourself, you will be happy.

也许我还没有想那么多吧，现在只是dating 而已，还不是一种relationship.我自问不可能皈依穆斯林，他好像也不可能放弃信仰。那么，无论怎样，这段感情都不可能有结果。 -anaesthetic(醉梦); 2005-4-10 {98} (#2232879@0)
只是，绝望的感情让人无法承受。我从来没想过爱上一个巴基斯坦人，也没想过，真的爱上，竟然会这么艰难。

My own experience. Stay away from him as soon as possible. You will hurt yourself one day. You are not really loving him right now and you can stop it at the beginning. -primo(Primo); 2005-4-11 {166} (#2233535@0)
But as the time goes, because of this 'hopeless love', you will love him more and more. In the end, you will lose yourself and get nothing. He will never marry you.

You are right. Please tell me how to say goodbye to him...it's so hard! -anaesthetic(醉梦); 2005-4-11 (#2234924@0)

Check you private messege. -primo(Primo); 2005-4-11 (#2235085@0)

Please check ur email. -anaesthetic(醉梦); 2005-4-11 (#2235180@0)

If just dating, how can you say you love him? I am so confused. Seems you like him more than he likes you. -laoningbo(butailao); 2005-4-16 {267} (#2244076@0)
Because you have such strong feeling toward him, and you have no idea how does he feel about you? If I were you, I will give it up, he might leave you before you are ready to give up. You will hurt youself more. When you love someone, make sure he will love you back.

如果双方有好感，暂时会快乐。但要好好想想代价和风险：如果你能全部接受他们的宗教，文化和生活习俗，牺牲自己，放弃自我，并随时做好被迫分手的准备，而且能够一个人坚强的走完余下的路。你不妨试一试。 -thecoolguy(孩哥); 2005-4-10 (#2232902@0)

你真是一头猪............ -freeport(freeport); 2005-4-13 (#2238702@0)

妈呀，这都哪儿跟哪儿呀？ -x888(我是来干正经事儿的。); 2005-4-13 (#2238718@0)

did you sleep with him, or kiss him, or hold hands together.........that you call him "lover"? ;-) -babyface(★Million-$-Baby★); 2005-4-13 (#2238714@0)

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