In the western country, husband and wife and children under 18 years are a family. Parent is another family. Children with family is another family. Nothing wrong. That they lived separately did not mean that the author did not care of his parents. When the parents get sick or something happen sure the author will help definitely. Shall he need to take his parents everyday like the kids?
The kids has kids' life; the young man has young man's life; the old man has old man's life. Nothing wrong. Chinese parents think if they are not lived with his children they are not be cared by them. Are they over react? The fear and scare come from the untrust of their kids.
Why wetern old men still drive by themself after 70 or 80? Why they are happy to live separately? Because they avoid many unnecessary conflicts.
The author's method to solve the problem is right. But he may not represent it right in the Chinese way.
The kids has kids' life; the young man has young man's life; the old man has old man's life. Nothing wrong. Chinese parents think if they are not lived with his children they are not be cared by them. Are they over react? The fear and scare come from the untrust of their kids.
Why wetern old men still drive by themself after 70 or 80? Why they are happy to live separately? Because they avoid many unnecessary conflicts.
The author's method to solve the problem is right. But he may not represent it right in the Chinese way.